"pink flutter"

A "pink flutter" is a story of love, compassion or anything that is close to your heart. This is my first pink flutter I would like to share.

It has been almost a year since Kari came to stay with us for a few weeks. During that short period she formed a close bond with my son Anthony, who at the time was 4. He enjoyed their time together and I will make sure that he remembers the fun they had. This was a fun evening.... After Kari had found her apartment she came over for dinner and to do her laundry. Anthony loves to "help" so he folded all of her towels!

When Kari passed away I knew that I had to tell Anthony but really had no idea how to do that. I researched how to talk to children about death and determined that I had to be honest....kind of. I couldn't say that she was in heaven because how do explain that to a 4 year old. I couldn't say that she went away..."went away where mamma?" I had not said anything for a few days however, I think he may have already known. One day when we got home from daycare we were sitting on the couch together and he looked at me and said "Mamma...when you do good things on earth God makes you an Angel"...oh my gosh!!!!...there was my opening and I went with it.... "Kari and Jayda are now angels Anthony". We talked about butterflies and how they are our special angels so everytime Anthony saw a butterfly in the yard he would say "It's Kari, Mamma!" At the end of his nightly prayer he says "I love my Mamma and Daddy and my special angels Kari and Jayda". He may not fully comprehend right now but one day he will...he will always a special place in his heart for his special angels...

I have heard that everytime you see a feather it means that an angel is with you. I was thinking about Kari while I was walking to work this morning and when I was about to take off my runners there was a feather on my laces.
xox I know you are with us and always will be xox  

A rush of wings
they flutter high
to touch the sun
and kiss the sky
A butterfly
is with us now
No more a caterpillar
upon a leaf
with angel wings
A soaring butterfly
with us they sing

Lili Pintea-Reed copyright 2002